Why People can’t handle frankness?

I think it is better to say things on the face than to back talk, but it is always misunderstood. I was thinking why?

Yes, this is something that many think and feel every day. The irony is that none of the so-called frank people can accept the frankness of others when it is directed towards them. When it is from them they are just being straightforward. When it is from others they brand it as arrogance and indifference.

Accepting even plain facts, When expressed frankly, is very difficult. How then can others tolerate our frankness, which often is just our opinion?

Truly, frankness in itself is never a problem, it is the bluntness with which our frankness is expressed that causes the problem. Human beings are fundamentally creatures of emotions, not logic. Our frankness may have some logic in it, but the bluntness with which it is communicated emotionally ruffles other people. An injured heart incapacitates the comprehending capabilities of the mind.

A man began to give large does of cod liver oil to his Doberman because he had been told that the stuff was good for dogs. Each day he would hold the head of the protesting dog between his knees, force its jaws open, and pour the liquid down its throat. One day the dog broke loose and spilled the oil on the floor. Then, to the man’s greatest surprise, it began to lick the floor. That’s when he discovered that the dog had been fighting was not the oil, but his way of administering it.

When struck by an arrow, will you sit around and analyze the raw material with which the arrow is made? When words hurt the tender hearts of people, they are too little for the meaning those words meant to convey. It isn’t just how you cook, it is how you serve also makes a difference.

Communication achieves its objective only when all the three components are taken care of. What you say, how you say and when you say.

Frankly speaking, good communication will serve a relationship.